The Reality of Romance: Annie Lalla on Embracing Conflict & Growth in Intimate Relationships
In this week’s Can’t Be Contained, I’m getting intimate (talking all about intimacy that is), with the world renowned relationship coach, Annie Lala!
Annie dives deep with me into her philosophy that TRUE intimacy comes from working through challenges as opposed to avoiding them. (As tempting as avoiding them may seem!) Through this unique lens, she likens relationship tension to an opportunity for growth—–in the same way that working out will strengthen our muscles to resistance. We talk all about the art of fighting (and hear us out, there is an art to it), exploring the distinction between fighting that is healthy and that which is toxic. Plus, we cover the SEXIEST thing a partner can do—–effectively communicate their needs and desires. (Is it getting hot in here, or is it just me?)
Together, we touch on some of the most common pitfalls people fall victim to when it comes to love and shed light on how absolutely IMPORTANT maintaining autonomy is in creating healthy relationship dynamics. Annie gives some unique perspectives on non-monogamy as we traverse some of the challenging dynamics that come with the territory. And if that isn’t enough, Annie provides practical techniques that can be used for more effective communication, inspiring partners towards mutual growth.
If you’re in a relationship, or like many just straight up CONFUSED at the complexity of love, then settle in…and get intimate with us.
Show Notes:
00:00 Conflict Builds Stronger Relationships
04:04 Avoid Nuclear Tactics in Relationships
06:57 “Collaboration: Values, Not Compromise”
12:18 “Self-Sufficiency in Relationships”
14:19 Prioritize Nervous System Stewardship
16:57 Codependency Cycle in Relationships
20:39 Education’s Role in Relationships
23:14 “Is Your Relationship True Love?”
26:31 Reimagining Fairy Tale Relationships
29:50 “Burning Man Talk on Human Potential”
34:00 Cultivating Long-Term Attraction
38:34 Prepared for Any Response
42:39 “Curling: Inviting Gentle Change”
46:00 Challenging Polyamory’s “Harem Effect”
49:34 Self-Reflection in Relationship Choices
50:53 “Developing Relationships Without Blame”
54:05 Connect with Me Online
About Lori Harder
As a cutting edge Relationship Coach, Annie maps the complexities of romance and upgrades emotional skills. Specializing in love, sex & conflict resolution, Annie’s created a suite of practical tools that resolve unconscious relational patterns, attachment wounds and recurrent conflict. She helps clients cultivate relational esteem and develop collaboration skills that go beyond power struggles, shame or blame. Annie is a fierce stand for creating intimate relationships that last a lifetime.
Links:
Website: https://www.annielalla.com/
IG: https://www.instagram.com/lallabird/?hl=en
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/annielallacoaching/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/annielalla
Somatic Coaching Certification: https://www.pausebreathwork.com/somatic-coaching/
About the host, Samantha Skelly
Samantha Skelly is a breathwork pioneer, serial entrepreneur, and #1 Best Selling Author who has spent the last decade revolutionizing the personal and spiritual development industries. She founded one of the largest breathwork companies worldwide. Pause Breathwork has a mission to help 1,000,000 people worldwide tap into their infinite potential using breathwork. It has grown into a multi-million dollar wellness company that has certified nearly 1,500 people in 27 countries, and thousands more use the Pause Breathwork Mobile App every day. She’s also a passionate speaker who has shared her message on over 400 stages, appearing on networks and in publications worldwide.
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Can’t Be Contained’ is the unscripted, unedited – fully uncontained journal entries & real-life experiences of those who follow their bliss & intuitive hits, the freedom seekers, the sacred rebels – the ones who are here to disrupt what preceded us & create what is ahead of us. Subscribe now to stay tuned for every episode!
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